Start with the Bad Habits. 6 Tips to dropping dead weight.

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“Depending on what they are, our habits will either make us or break us. We become what we repeatedly do.” ―Sean Covey

So you do it all, you workout daily, read, meditate, listen to the latest TEDx thought leader discussing how to be a better you… And yet, you're still groggy, depressed, and trapped on the hamster wheel seemingly getting nowhere. (Maybe you don’t do any of these things, this might still be super relevant)

1. Know your Schedule.

Your brain naturally doesn't want to do anything, its lazy, its constantly searching for the shortest path to conserving energy, If it doesn't know what to do, its going to default to the “feel goods”, which really arent as much feel goods as they are addictive time wasters.

2. List out your bad habits.

Don’t worry about eliminating all of your bad habits at once, its a sure-fire way to failure. Sure it sounds good “Just stop doing the bad shit”, but in reality it’s not that simple. A lot of bad habits have deeper roots that will need to be explored and understood over time.

3. Ask yourself, Why am I doing this?

This has to be the first question you ask yourself about the bad habits you are trying to get rid of. It's important to know what the root of the problem is. Is this something that you actually want to change? or is it something that you can change/stop without changing or stopping something else?

  • Am I avoiding something right now?
  • What was I doing prior to this?
  • What do I have to do after?
  • If I do this for the rest of my life, will it make me a better or happier person?
  • Does this affect anyone else?
  • Does This Align With My Values?

4. The Opposite of “Emulate Success”

A Powerful technique that works for me is to watch people that I don't want to be like and look for similarities, when I recognize one, I make a note and ask myself if that things is contributing to my success or is it dead weight… Possibly a toxic way of looking at things, but its effective.

5. Measure the Cost

6. Be good to yourself

For the love of God, don’t beat yourself up over failure, that's a one way ticket to giving up on yourself and its incredibly toxic. Its ok to fall off the horse, It would actually be pretty remarkable if you didnt… Really, imagine if things just worked all the time… Fuck, I would be successful!…

Closing Remarks

Dropping habits is extremely hard. Don’t expect that Hollywood burst of motivation to change your life, its not coming. Movement is the key, just keep pushing forward and generally things will be alright, and if they're not, ask for help. If there is anything that helped you drop a nasty habit, throw it down below.

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